You know what today is, Woman Crush Wednesday! For those of you who do not know what this current hip trend is all about, let me enlighten you. Here is a brief and simple description by International Business Times.
“WCW stands for “Woman Crush Wednesday,” which is when social media users share pictures of ladies that they find attractive or admire. Both male and female Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Tumblr users participate in the weekly trend, which is always seen on a Wednesday. It’s like a mini social media holiday where everyone participates in sharing a picture of their favorite female or “girl crush.” It could be a famous celebrity like Jennifer Lawrence, or even someone’s love interest.
The female species is not exempt from this popular trend, but you can participate in #MCM, Man Crush Monday (blog). #WCW (Woman Crush Wednesday), a national phenomenon that has turned into a pop-trend within American culture; and among many Jesus’ followers. It’s amazing to see how huge this trend is catching on within the Christian world. I want to make a disclaimer to my readers. In no way am I connecting this current trend to being a salvation issue or condemning those that do participate. In fact, if you have a significant other, by all means post a picture and show how God has blessed you! Furthermore, let me add a deeper disclaimer. Christians posting “crush” pictures of non-Christians (celebrities and such) may seem insignificant, but Eve (#MCM), so was the Forbidden Fruit in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3) Posting pictures of your significant other is great, but Adam (#WCW), do not create Idols that will have you hiding from the Creator and your purpose.
When a noun (person, place, thing) takes the place of God, that’s the moment we find ourselves in anomaly. Unhealthy Relationships and/or “crushes” create an abnormal behavior of obsession. The scriptures are clear how God feels about idols. I like to refer to them as functional saviors that take the place of the One true Savior. God instructed His people with Ten Commandments and the first command is the following:
“You must not have any other god but me.” (Exodus 20:3 NLT)
It’s very clear that God desires us to love and serve Him and no one else. But the scriptures go further by saying:
“You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea. You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods.” (Exodus 20:4-5 NLT)
God is a jealous God and He will not tolerate our affection for any other gods. I love how the New Living Translation states the word “tolerate.” Whether it be a person, place and/or thing, God will not stomach your idol worship.
The primitive root meaning of “image” in hebrew “pacal” means to carve, whether wood or stone. But let’s be real, most “images” we find today can be viewed on social media. What you give yourself to, becomes your ultimate surrender. What you treasure becomes your life’s measure. You become obsessed with an individual and the notion of Love. Romance and True Love, are two separate ideas. Woman Crush Wednesday provides an ideal fantasy of romance, but True Love can only be defined by the core of where Love originated. When we idolize pop-culture romance, we commit idolatry against True Love. We Love because He first Loved us (1 John 4:19). Idolizing romance and fantasy is a strong offense against the gospel.
The book of Romans describes an Idolatrous generation, similar to our current culture. “… they worshiped idols made to look like mere people and birds and animals and reptiles.” (Romans 1:23 NLT) The moment you create a functional savior, that’s the moment God will strip everything away, until you say, “have your way.” Trust me, save yourself before it’s to late. Unhealthy Relationships and fantasy crushes simply come with headaches, heartache and heartbreak. Modern day Idolatry may seem insignificant, but God does not take Idol Worship lightly. In the words of Job,
“I came naked from my mother’s womb, and I will be naked when I leave. The Lord gave me what I had, and the Lord has taken it away. Praise the name of the Lord!” (Job 1:21 NLT)
Have you ever heard of the term “Girl Crush?” According to the Urban Dictionary, girl crush is when a girl admires another girl in a non-sexual way. It simply means you admire the person you have a girl crush on, or you want to be best friends with your girl crush.
Woman Crush Wednesday is not limited to males, but a huge population of females participate in this trend. Posting pictures of celebrity crushes and/or best friend crushes. I personally do not comprehend such behavior of new age theology of “girl crushes” among the female species, but it’s certainly taken as casual humor. I have noticed the trend within the Christian world and in it, there is a sense of a hidden serpent within the concept.
Let’s go back to the beginning of civilization where God designed male and female. “So God created human beings in His own image. In the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.” (Genesis 1:27 NLT)
“So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.” (Genesis 2:21 NLT)
Anytime you create a pattern that is opposite to the primary plan of God, you reverse the commandment of Male and Female. You may say, “it’s just a girl crush. It’s just admiration.” But Eve! It’s just Fruit. Who does that sound like?
The Serpent: “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden? You won’t die! God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it, and you will be like God, knowing both good and evil.” (Genesis 3:1-4 NLT)
And we all know where that took us and where we stand today. The serpent used manipulation and reversed the plan of God. Satan continues this pattern throughout history and time. Hence the spirit of rebellion, lust and homosexuality (lesbianism) was conceived in the Garden of Eden. What seems insignificant is actually significant within Satan’s scheme. We must always stand guard by the power of the Holy Spirit, to not allow Satan’s reverse psychology to creep in.
“Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous.” (1 Corinthians 16:13 NLT)
“Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8 NLT)
You may say, “It’s just admiration.” But I must ask, who are you inspiring to be? A celebrity with anti-god views and seducing spirits? Is it a non-Christian friend that does not pose Christian values? Or maybe your #WCW is one of your fellow sisters in the faith. But not everyone that sits modestly in a pew is an authentic Christian. I would be more concerned about the condition of their character before you start posting your girl-crush on social media.
“Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves. You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act.” (Matthew 7:15-16 NLT)
This concept goes for both genders. Mean Girls and Mean Boys. Who do you admire and inspire to be?
Lust is the core of Woman Crush Wednesday. Any typical dude with sexual testosterone will desire to post Kim Kardashian, or any other celebrity crushes on social media. Men are sexual creatures and that’s how God designed us. Let’s talk real talk! Every normal man has a sexual beast ready to be unleashed. I do not care how much you pray, fast and how many degrees you hold in seminary; you’re an animal! Sexuality and sexual attraction is not the problem, Lust is the issue. Think about it, when you post celebrity crushes, most pictures are non-modest and have a sexual appeal. Here is what the Bible says about Lust:
“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28 NLT)
We will tackle Lust on another day, but for now I want to draw our focus on the emotional and psychological effect it has on men. In researching for this blog, I came across a few interesting studies that show the effect of visual stimuli: Men and Women Differ in Amygdala Response to Visual Sexual Stimuli and Men and Women Explore the Visual World Differently.
Each study shows similarities and differences in brain activity within the male and female. It’s a given fact that men are visual and sexually driven by images. If you doubt that, look how successful the pornography industry is. When we post, view and react towards sexual images; the spirit of Lust that was conceived in the Garden of Eden creeps up like a slithering snake. It may look appealing to the eyes, but is it appealing to the Holy Spirit? Look where it got Adam:
And to the man He said, “Since you listened to your wife and ate from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat, the ground is cursed because of you. All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it. It will grow thorns and thistles for you, though you will eat of its grains. By the sweat of your brow will you have food to eat until you return to the ground from which you were made. For you were made from dust, and to dust you will return.” (Genesis 3:17-19 NLT)
Notice: God confronted man first before in confronted the woman and the serpent. Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” (Genesis 3:9 NLT) Men, we are responsible for every action we take. That’s another blog in itself. Be responsible and wise up to the scheme of Satan. Lust got Adam into trouble and Lust will get you into trouble. Mainstream media and culture has depicted men to be sexual emotionless animals that are chauvinist jerks. Let’s prove society wrong by gracefully being gentlemen and harness the beast mode within us.
On a side note, guys who have significant others and feel the obligation to post a picture every Wednesday, great, that’s awesome! But be cautious of the images you do post; just know there are lustful dudes out there without the Holy Spirit.
I leave you with this to ponder on. Christian young men that post #WCW simply need a life. Get productive with your community, church and family. Stay busy and get a life. Literally.