Five Reasons Not to Follow Your Heart



“Follow your heart.” Have you ever heard that expression? It’s a very common and overused phrase in American culture. From Hollywood movies to romance novels, everyone encourages to follow your heart. It’s a great deception that has blindsided our current generation. A scheme that was conceived in the Garden of Eden as the snake himself became the greatest con artist known to mankind. Steve Jobs once said:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone’s else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma-which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”

~Steve Jobs, Apple Inc. co-founder

If you know me, I’m a huge fan of Apple products. I must say, Steve Jobs quoted some solid knowledge. But Mr. Jobs, you have one concept wrong: Follow Your Heart. For many of us, following our heart can be a natural instinct. Following your heart can get you into a lot of trouble. The worst advice you can receive in pursuing a relationship and/or in a dating relationship is to follow your heart. Following your heart will only produce an unhealthy relationship.

Here are five simple, but yet practical reasons not to follow your HEART.

“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? (Jeremiah 17:9 NLT)

The hebrew translation for deceitful (`aqob) means fraudulent, crooked and polluted.
The primitive hebrew translation for wicked (`anash) means to be frail, feeble, or (figuratively) melancholy. Desperately wicked, incurable, sick and woeful.

Why in the world would you trust a living organism, a soul that is fraudulent, incurable and down right sick? Your heart is full of havoc and the #1 rule is not to follow your heart. If you follow your heart, your emotions will get the best of you and that leads to a lifetime of heartbreak.

“We grow weary in our present bodies, and we long to put on our heavenly bodies like new clothing. God himself has prepared us for this, and as a guarantee he has given us his Holy Spirit. For we live by believing and not by seeing.” (2 Corinthians 5:2, 5, 7 NLT)

The scriptures urge us to put on our spirit garments that will suppress the havoc of our earthly soul. Following your heart is like living by sight, but we live by a sturdy faith. A vintage faith that was designed from the beginning of time.


“But I, the Lord, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.” (Jeremiah 17:10 NLT)

We inherit the frailty of Adam and Eve. From the beginning of time, God searched man’s heart and secret motives. Eve would one day be deceived into the greatest scheme. Deception would bring an anti-god perception. It may look good, but it does not mean it’s good for you. Following your heart brings a temporary satisfaction. Eating a Twinkie is satisfying for a moment, but if you keep eating Twinkie’s, eventually you will look like a Twinkie.

“The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it.” (Genesis 3:6 NLT)

Mankind followed their heart and emotional urges of what looked appealing. Eve gave into deception and became apart of deception. You are what you eat.


“The Scriptures tell us, “The first man, Adam, became a living person.” But the last Adam—that is, Christ—is a life-giving Spirit.” (1 Corinthians 15:45 NLT)

There is a significant comparison to living a life without the Holy Spirit and a life filled by the power of the Holy Spirit. You can either be led by your fraudulent emotions or you can be led by the Holy Spirit. Love is blind and your heart will blind you from truth. On the other hand, Jesus’ will lead you to all truth (John 16:13). Adam was created as a living person, designed with a self-will. But Jesus’ provides a substitution by giving life and direction.

“Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves.” (Genesis 3:6, 7 NLT)

Adam was designated a responsibility over the earth and was given a spiritual authority over Eve. It was his responsibility to rescue his beauty from eternal deception, but he became a passive man and followed his heart. The second Adam (Jesus Christ) did the exact opposite and rescued humanity from an eternal destruction.

It’s your choice Adam.

“Rebellion is as sinful as witchcraft, and stubbornness as bad as worshiping idols. So because you have rejected the command of the Lord, he has rejected you as king.” (1 Samuel 15:23 NLT)

Rebels without a cause. We are the James Dean of our time and live a careless life when we follow our heart. Rebellion is satanic and stubbornness is a great offense towards God. It’s your stubbornness that will get you into trouble.

“But Samuel replied, “What is more pleasing to the Lord : your burnt offerings and sacrifices or your obedience to his voice? Listen! Obedience is better than sacrifice, and submission is better than offering the fat of rams.” (1 Samuel 15:22 NLT)

The greatest red flag in a relationship is not the ones appearing in your significant other; but the greatest red flag is the rebellion in your own heart. If God is speaking and giving you a big NO; obedience is better than sacrifice. 


“So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves.” (Galatians 5:16 NLT)

What does your heart crave? Nothing good, that’s for sure. Remember, your heart is fraudulent and incurable. Galatians chapter five speaks of being led by the Holy Spirit. Following your heart is the exact opposite. It cost Samson’s life for the exchange of following his heart (Judges 16:4-21). He lost his strength and vision, literally. Temptation nagged Samson to death, as one translation implies.

“She tormented him with her nagging day after day until he was SICK TO DEATH OF IT.” (Judges 16:16 NLT)

Society and pop-culture will tell you to indulge in the cravings of your heart, but Jesus’ is the ultimate outlet.

“The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” (1 Corinthians 10:13 NLT)

Will you follow your heart?

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